Abigail’s speech stopped an army, averted murder, and resulted in marriage. From the transcript, 1) Abigail accepts responsibility that is not hers, 2) showcases her familiarity with David’s motives and circumstances, and 3) correctly uses emotional prediction to persuade David not to murder the men of Nabal’s house. Abigail showed her mettle as a wise woman and a meek and true leader. Tailoring her words to David’s future as prophesied by Samuel, she said,
And it shall come to pass, when the LORD shall have done to my lord according to all the good that he hath spoken concerning thee, and shall have appointed thee ruler over Israel; That this shall be no grief unto thee, nor offence of heart unto my lord, either that thou hast shed blood causeless, or that my lord hath avenged himself….
If Abigail had defended herself, while distancing herself from Nabal’s perversity, David might have kept his angry path. How many times have I used a fleeting and pivotal moment to defend myself, proclaiming my own goodness (Pro 20:6), rather than seeking to understand/encourage/persuade/influence another. Abigail’s example inspires!